WHAT IS YOUR CURRENCY?

Considering this blog has only been live for one whole week, I assume that it hasn’t been shared international (yet) So when I say “currency” I’m not talking money. Otherwise this post would be pretty short and boring. “Hey what’s your currency?” “USD. You?.” “Ya, me too!” “Cool… Why am I following this blog again?!”

Today’s definition of currency is what we value emotionally and physically that we can use in a medium of exchange. What are the things that are important to you; that motivate you; that you want and need from others? (I suppose $ currency could be emotional currency, $ makes me happy, motivates me, I need it, I want more!) We all have different currency when it comes to emotional fulfillment. Taking the time to not only learn your own but to understand others could help build a more supportive, less competitive society, because when we learn our currency we learn that we all want different things which makes compromise feel less sacrificial. (And Breath!! Refer to Rule #2.That was an example of the Gentry language run-on sentence. You may need to increase cardio training to build physical stamina and lung capacity to handle those, but you’ll pick up the dialect soon enough.)

You are probably thinking, “Wow, this 20 something know it all has really bad grammar, but is on to something here; so profound; so wise beyond her years!” Well…. Don’t! Rule #4; I’m not a credible source. I stole this concept from my trusted “I’m not a doctor, but I play one on T.V.,” Dr. Phil, but I think it really can help when it comes to our relationship.

Example time! My husband loves food. A home cooked dinner is his currency. Me? Not so much. I’m either a chicken breast and salad or a Cheetos, applesauce, ice cream (and yes sometimes cat food. Thanks for sharing that fun childhood fact with facebook Mom) kind of girl. Whether I’m being healthy or have thrown in the towel, I’m all about quick, easy, less mess, less stress. However, being the great wife that I am, I acknowledge that food is something he loves and is important to him. I try to cook at least 4 nights a week, with every Wednesday trying a new recipe. I call it “What’s new Wednesdays.” My currency is a kiss and an “I love you” when he leaves for work AND a clean kitchen. You can’t expect much from a mom that works all day and walks into a dirty kitchen. That’s just crazy talk!! Am I right? So if he helps keep the kitchen clean, I’ll make him dinner.

You probably couldn’t tell by my “What’s new Wednesdays” (We also have “Tasty Treat Tuesdays”, “Crockpot Thursdays”, and “Finger food Fridays.” We tried “Finger Paint Friday’s” but that was quickly 86ed), BUT another currency of mine is I need everything to be an adventure.  Something I’ve had to learn is not everyone feels that way. Not everyone needs to dress up like a superhero and prance around the streets singing “Mary Had a Little Lamb” to feel ALIVE. That’s ok too; actually you are probably better off that way! So whether your currency is date nights, kisses, someone making your morning coffee, quiet time, or a simple “how was your day?” I encourage you to find out what it is that is important to you in your relationships. I think if you start asking people what they want and need from you too; you will find that compromise can be reached quite easily! 

Tune in next week for “I’m not perfect, but I play one on Facebook!” Or maybe “If you are confident, you are beautiful!”